Life Out on the Street: Yes, Continued

Yes, Continued II

Clearly I remember
Pickin’ on the boy,
Seemed a harmless little fuck…

Though it was blogged multiple times, clearly a lot of people missed Loglady Loon’s Freak Showroom. Or, they visited, agreed with the message, and promptly forgot it when the carny music died down.

Here’s something that the magic of SL protects you from: in 2007, 37.3 million people were in poverty in America, according to the U.S. Census Bureau. According to the most data available in 2005 form the Human Development Report, at least 71 countries have 10% or more of their population living on less than US$2.00 a day.

And when you live in poverty, you don’t get to decide what you wear. You’re thankful to have clothes warm enough to keep off a chill, and lucky if you have shoes without holes. If you look good, it’s not because of what you wear- it’s because of your personality.

The poverty line is also controversial in America- while it’s been adjusted, those that don’t qualify still struggle. Health care becomes a luxury, and high-quality dresses and leather jackets become a dream. So, children, teenagers and adults scrape by with what they can, having very basic outfits that they may have to wear day in and day out, as well as foregoing trips to the doctor and dentist.

My mother – my real life, flesh and blood, gave birth to me in the hospital mother – was one of those kids. She has to wear the same outfits to school, and she was insulted and beaten.

Here’s something else you don’t have to worry about on the grid: in reality, you don’t get to pick your parents. You’re pretty much stuck with the genes you have. My mother had curly hair, and she was insulted and beaten for that, too.

I was an earlier developer, and was one of the tallest in my class throughout elementary school. I was picked on, beat-up, and outcast because of it. Ritually.

Yes, Continued I

And here’s something you might see in world: kids don’t’ just “grow-up” out of bullying. It evolves. A fair portion learn that it’s not acceptable (though these are usually bystanders, the ones that watched as other kids beat the snot out of someone just because they felt like it), while the others either become more aggressive and end up in jail or dead, or retailer their actions to fit the business world. They push around their coworkers, threaten their employees, and use they’re assumed authority to do what they want and stomp on others.

Do you know what happens to the bully victims?

They lives with emotional scars. Some deal with depression, others anxiety; girls may never feel comfortable in their own skin, boys may never feel like they can achieve anything. Some work to manage their pain, others end it by ending it all.

They should just get over it, right?


Do you know why the drinking age is set to 21 in the United States? It’s not because adolescents are incapable of handling it- our European peers prove that. It’s because scientists have shown that the brain undergoes critical development up until that point.

Guess what?

Our environments and what happens to us affects our development. You expose a child to repeated physical and mental abuse by anyone, they’re going to have long term problems. And bullying is abuse.

Yes, there are different levels of bullying and some of it should be blown off. However, I’ve seen enough little snowballs grow into avalanches that I just can’t take any of it. If you are an adult, that means you should have outgrown your adolescent egocentrism, as in, you should have empathy for others. Be able to put yourself in someone else’s shoes. To know that money and stuff isn’t everything, but a message should be acknowledged.

Loglady’s message was beauty can be found in what is not “beauty”. My message is that people need to pay attention to what we see, hear and read, especially when people are hurting. How do you think wars and genocide occur? In fact, what do you think they are? Someone wants to be the right one, the greater one, the superior one, and they want their way. Bullying.

Yes, I purposefully chose an outfit that is not fashionable. I chose it to illustrate the grime, not the glamor, of reality. To further this point, I’m purposefully not posting the details.

Yes, Continued III

~ by Terry Toland on March 11, 2009.

6 Responses to “Life Out on the Street: Yes, Continued”

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  3. Thank you.

  4. I am very passionate about this subject, and really, I’m tired of keeping it all in.

  5. hey hey Terry! I just found your blog woot woot. Great post, sorry I didnt find it sooner. Since we have this experience in common I affirm it is so important to talk about. It just festers if you keep it in for too long. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with us.

  6. Oh, I don’t really expect people to find me, really. Yeah, I’m in some feeds and communities, but I’m not as active or established as others. So no need to apologize for that.

    I can attest to the experiences of bullying welling up inside. In fact, I’d say that even when you start talking, if you’ve kept it in a while, it can still mess with your mind.

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